⭐ How to ask for nudes

DON’T EVER EXPLICITLY ASK, BE SUBTLE AND LISTEN TO WHAT SHE’S SAYING

If she feels comfortable and actually wants to send a nude she’ll probably hint at it. If you explicitly say “send me nudes” it’s a bit cringy, but if you pay attention she might drop some subtle hints that she’s in the mood.

SO LOOK OUT FOR THE HINTS!!

This should be obvious, but if a girl is telling you she’s about to get in the shower or that she’s just gone shopping and bought some new underwear, alarm bells should be going off in your head as it’s her saying “let’s sext!!!!”, which will probably lead to a nude.

She dropped some heavy hints

ALWAYS TRY AND INITIATE SEXTING

There has to be a build up for a girl to send you a nude. Like sure, you could ask “send nudes” and you might get a side boob shot, but if you want the real deal you’ve gotta put the work in. If you’re sexting and turning each other on, the girl knows she’ll win the sexting game by sending a nude.

Get sexual. Get her turned on too.

She isn’t going to send you nude photos of herself midway through talking about her paper. Instead, you want to set the tone. Get her in the mood to be sexy and scandalous.

Start slow. Maybe some playful innuendos and see if she’s into it. Otherwise, if you share the right levels of comfort with each other, you can literally tell her you’re turned on thinking about her.

If you’re working out how to get nudes from your girlfriend, this part gets even easier. You already know exactly what she likes.

If she’s somewhere suitable (i.e. not in the middle of dinner with her grandparents) and in the right mood, she’ll play along. You might get a response like, “Oh yeah? What are you thinking about right now?” That’s your green light to explore further.

If you’ve already had sex, you can tell her you’re thinking about your last time together. Get specific about what you liked and what parts of her you’re thinking about right now.

If you haven’t reached that point with her yet, tell her what you’d like to see. “You looked so good in those little shorts last week. I really want to see what’s under them.”

If she’s comfortable, confident and trusting enough, this alone might be enough for her to show you. Other times, it’ll take some more back and forth conversation -- I could think of worse ways to spend my time!

Whatever you do though, don’t ask for photos or make her feel pressured.

Sexting is the ideal situation

Sexting is a fantastic way to get you both in the mood. Lead on from my examples above and tell her exactly what you’d like to do to/with her.

Make sure you escalate slowly and take the time to build a detailed story for her. “I want to take your clothes off and have sex with you” is quite mundane as far as sexting goes.

Instead, describe how you’re going to hold her. How you’re going to kiss her and run your hands down her body, undoing one button at a time. You get the picture.

She’s going to contribute to this story too. The more immersed you both are, the hotter it’ll be and you’ll both end up wanting more. I talked about how to turn a girl on through sexting in more detail a while back. If it’s something you’ve never tried before, check out the article -- you’re missing out!

If she still doesn’t send you photos during sexting (some women don’t, and there’s nothing wrong with that), you can try hinting at it a little. Ask her where she is right now and if she’s touching herself. If she says yes, tell her you really wish you could see that right now.

Something along those lines will usually be enough of a prompt. She’s turned on, she wants you right now, and she wants you to see it. It's enough of a clue that she might want to sleep with you.

GIVE SOME COMPLIMENTS

Nudes can be nerve-wracking for a girl to send. For her to send them, she needs to know she’s oozing in sex appeal and that she’s super hot. Without compliments and knowing she’s wanted, it’s just not going to happen. So compliment her a lot, tell her she looks hot, tell her you wish you were with her after seeing a fit Insta pic she just uploaded – build her confidence in anyway, then she’ll feel comfortable to send them on. No one’s gonna send a nude to a guy they think isn’t interested.

DON’T SEND THE AUBERGINE OR PEACH EMOJI

This isn’t 2016, we’re over the dick and ass fruit emojis – and unsolicited dick pics. Sending these suggests you have zero chat and have to resort to little cartoons rather than have the balls to get us in the mood and hint for a nude. If you’re sending aubergine or peach emojis, you’re probably the type of person to send a nude of you in return but with the dog filter over your face. Lame.

IF SHE DOESN’T WANNA SEND YOU A PIC, STOP PESTERING HER

Nudes are personal, and usually only sent to the guy the girl really trusts. Obv this isn’t the case always and girls can send their pics wherever and to whoever they want – but if she doesn’t want to send one to you specifically, stop asking – it’s not a vibe.

Easing into sexual topics

The best way to show that you're non-judgmental is to talk about sexual topics as if it's not a big deal. This is easier if you've already had some hookup adventures.

If you're still getting to know each other, consider initially bringing up these topics using third parties. Perhaps you have a female roommate who's going through a post-breakup Tinder rampage or an old classmate who works part-time as a pole dancer. Provided you speak about these people positively, these types of stories can be a smart way to ease into dirty talk. If she responds eagerly, that's a green light to begin asking if she's done anything similar. Most probably, she'll return these questions to you. Eventually, you can move to the discussion to sending nudes.

Don't fall into the trap of slut-shaming other women or talking down about anyone's sexual preferences. The golden rule when discussing these risque topics is to behave as if it's completely normal. The law of state transference is at play here. If you give off the vibe that certain behavior is shameful or outrageous, you can forget about her doing it with you.

How to Ask for Nudes: What to Say

Escalating from sexting

As you're sexting or reminiscing about your last sexual adventure, comment about a specific body part of hers. A text such as "I'd love to see your ass right about now" could trigger her to send a picture, especially if she's already been turned on by the flirty messages. Women are more likely to comply when you ask for pictures of a specific body part. In the McAfee poll, 55% of women said they'd sent pictures of their breasts, while 17% had sent ass pics and just 9% had shared full-body snaps.

You ask her to “send a pic” and/or “what are you wearing?” If she sends a fully-clothed pic, tease her by asking if that's the best she can do. If she doesn't even send a fully-clothed pic, you've got a lot of work to do. It's probably best to drop the idea of nudes for now . . .

TELL HER YOU’RE SOMEWHERE PUBLIC WHEN SEXTING

This only works when you’re already sexting a little bit and getting in the mood. Even if you’re at home, just say you’re out at the shops and can’t wait to get home (to continue the sexting). Sure this may be a little white lie at times, but it’ll get her going knowing you might be about to open a nude in a very public place e.g. in a bar, at work, in a meeting. It’ll make her feel turned on knowing you’re turned on but can’t do anything about it.